Making Peace with our “Unacceptable” Bits

We’ve all got them, those parts of ourselves we secretly wish would just pack up and leave. The jealous part. The angry part. The one that says the wrong thing in meetings or cries in the car park. The bits we label as too much or not enough.

But here’s the thing: those parts don’t disappear just because we’ve decided they’re not welcome. They simply go underground, waiting for their moment to burst through, often right when we least expect it (or least want it).

In therapy, we gently turn toward these “unacceptable” parts with curiosity rather than judgement. Together, we listen for what they’re really trying to say, often, it’s something like “I’m scared,” or “I just wanted to be seen.” When we meet them with understanding instead of rejection, they begin to relax.

Therapy isn’t about fixing or polishing you into perfection. It’s about helping you build a kinder relationship with every version of yourself, the fierce, the fragile, and everything in between.

🌼 You don’t have to earn acceptance here. You just have to show up.

~ Jumbled Bean