Judgement: The Great Human Habit

Let’s be honest, judging people is what we do. All. The. Time. It’s practically a national sport. We judge strangers, colleagues, friends, and (most harshly) ourselves. It’s how we position ourselves in the invisible hierarchy of “doing life right.” We measure others by our own value system, in the quiet (and slightly smug) belief that ours is the way. Ouch. But here’s the truth: not one of us is immune.

The good news? With awareness and practice, we can soften the edges of our inner judge. Reducing judgement doesn’t just make us kinder, it makes us freer. You might even find you start liking yourself more when you realise everyone, including you, is just muddling through life as best they can.

In therapy, we often work on noticing those knee-jerk judgements, the ones toward others and the ones aimed squarely at ourselves. We explore where they come from, how they protect us, and how to replace them with understanding and compassion.

Try this: schedule a “judgement-free day.” Set hourly reminders. Catch yourself judging, and layer it with compassion, for them and for you.

🌼 We’re all works in progress, some of us just have louder inner judges.

~ Jumbled Bean